I think about when you’re attempting to be constant on social media, you’re most likely attempting to construct a enterprise, make some more money, gross sales or construct your following and so forth.
I wish to begin by speaking a couple of totally different approach to take a look at consistency that may provide help to. Subsequent, I’m going to share two mantras (which can be going to hit you actually onerous), that I feel will provide help to be extra constant. Lastly, we’re going to dive into the 2 varieties of individuals concerning consistency and determine which one you’re and what to do about it.
Do you wrestle with consistency on social media?
In case you wrestle with consistency on social media….you’re most likely trying on the motion steps that try to be doing and considering “why trouble?” I’m not getting outcomes, it’s not occurring for me, nobody’s reaching out or shopping for my factor.. (no matter it’s, that you simply’re promoting).
What you must have a look at as a substitute is, what would it not really feel prefer to have the outcomes that you’re at present wanting Here’s a quote from Dr. Joe Dispenza, (a mentor of mine), “you wish to dwell in reminiscences of your future greater than reminiscences of your previous.” Recollections of your future means, what your life will seem like when you’ve completed the outcomes that you simply’re attempting to get. You’re clearly attempting to be constant on social media for a motive. What’s the rationale?
This jogs my memory, I keep in mind speaking to a man (on the time I used to be in a community advertising and marketing firm) and I informed him “hey, I’m completely happy to indicate you find out how to make more money that can assist you get what you need.” He watches the video…I requested him, “hey, why do you wish to make more money?” and he stated “nicely , I’ve 4 daughters. I’ve given them the whole lot of their life and it’s been superb, however as they’re grow old, I understand I would like them to have their dream marriage ceremony and I don’t have that sort of cash.” So I ask him, “okay, how critical of a problem is that? Is that one thing that’s non-compulsory? Is that one thing that you simply completely wish to do?” Truthfully I feel he was about able to rob a financial institution or one thing as a result of that was actually necessary to him.
What’s actually necessary to you?
It’s a must to take into consideration the factor that’s actually necessary to you. Not the exercise, as a result of there’s going to be a number of exercise that doesn’t pan out. There’s going to be a number of attain outs, movies, and various things that don’t work out. However, In case you don’t do them, none of them will work.
You exhibiting up constantly will create the outcomes you want in your life.
What does that seem like?
Is it price it?
I can inform you for my life, (I used to be lifeless broke, in foreclosures, feeling like a loser….)it’s been price it. Value it for me to be constant and it’ll be price it for you too.
What are the 2 mantras?
Now I wish to share with you two mantras that that actually run my life. I train these to our college students and shoppers and it’ll provide help to with a pair issues.
I feel it’ll assist spur you into being extra constant and it’ll truly assist make clear some issues for you.
First mantra, “assist the individual you was.”
These days so many entrepreneurs are asking “what’s my area of interest market, what’s my goal market, what’s my excellent avatar?” If that individual simply regarded inside at who they was and what they overcame…..(Did they overcome trauma, what obstacles did they overcome, have been they lifeless broke after which bounced again, did they overcome a foul relationship?) If they really checked out what they’re an skilled of…(overcoming these various things) then they may serve all of these people who find themselves in that wrestle.
I’m going to offer you my favourite instance on this planet. We now have a actuality present known as Play to Win. In season one, we had a girl on there named Renee Adams. Renee Adams had by no means shared her story, by no means publicly spoken and even accomplished a video. On this actuality present one thing in her modified and she or he shared with me her previous..it was a really robust previous. Not solely did she have bodily abuse, sexual abuse, she was truly trafficked as a child. Only a actually, actually robust story. After loving on her, hugging her and telling her that she’s superb and all that, I added- “, when you’re prepared to share that, you can assist lots of people as a result of there are individuals on the market that went by comparable sort of conditions that gained’t determine with my story as a result of I didn’t.” I didn’t undergo these conditions. I went by bodily abuse as a child however I didn’t undergo these different issues, proper?
I say this to individuals, some individuals run with it, some individuals don’t.
Inside a month, she was instructing and talking at Girls’s Abuse Facilities.
Inside a yr, she spoke on the seventeenth annual conference towards human trafficking for the College of Ohio in entrance of 19 nations.
This ladies, in a single yr went from…” nobody is aware of my story, nobody’s heard it, I’ve by no means accomplished a video, I’ve by no means publicly spoken… to impacting tens of 1000’s of individuals together with her story. I do know that she’s since spoken for them one or two different instances.
That’s an instance of serving to who you was.
Second mantra, “we now have to be as courageous because the individuals who want us.”
I take into consideration the those that wish to change their life, like I did. I used to be sick and uninterested in being sick and drained. I’ve had totally different moments in my life the place I used to be both sick of being owned by my job or sick of being lifeless broke, I’ve had each of these cases.
I needed to be as courageous as these those that have been exhibiting up on social media trying to find an answer…..You do too.
Let these two mantras drive your exercise, let these two mantras actually get in your head and provide help to perceive that you’re making a distinction when you keep constant.
What are the 2 varieties of individuals concerning consistency?
Let’s discuss concerning the two varieties of individuals concerning consistency and what to do about it.
Sort primary is a workaholic.
(That is who I was….my self-worth points from rising up in a really abusive residence, of continually being informed that I used to be nugatory and all of the issues that I created from that have, my coping mechanism was to work. By no means wrestle with consistency as a result of I used to be a workaholic.)
The issue with that individual is they may obtain issues, I achieved issues. I acquired trophies, made some huge cash and I did good.
The issue is none of that made me really feel any higher. The individual whose coping mechanism is to be a workaholic is attempting to create outcomes to fill their self-worth they usually’re not congruent, it’ll truly by no means occur. That’s like “I wish to plant a bunch of bushes so let me purchase a bunch of banjos.” Doesn’t make sense, proper? They only don’t- one won’t ever equal the opposite.
For that sort of individual (it’s a very it’s a small share of individuals, possibly 5 p.c, possibly much less)it is advisable work on what brings you pleasure?
Begin to get extra within the perspective of gratitude.
Begin recognizing who you truly are, as a result of this hustle and grind of “I’ve to show who I’m”…..you’re already who you’re, proper? Cease attempting to show it.
You don’t must be the hustle, grinder, you don’t must spend each minute away from your loved ones to attempt to show one thing that that gained’t show.
Begin to step into “hey, you’re a good individual, you didn’t deserve all these issues that occurred to you” and begin to really feel higher about your state of affairs. There’s extra work I may provide help to with round that….Attain out to me when you’d like assist with that.
The second sort of individual, the one who’s not constant.
This is almost all.
The vast majority of individuals aren’t constant and it’s as a result of they’ve drawn the flawed conclusion to success.
I’m going to inform you a robust story. I coached this girl and for 4 years, her profession was up and down, up and down, up and down and if we went farther again, I’m positive it was the identical factor as a result of that’s the sample. The sample is up down, up and up down.
(The explanation that individuals aren’t constant is that they’ve created the flawed conclusion to success based mostly on a previous commentary that they made as a child.)
She informed me that her profession was like this and that she simply didn’t wish to disappoint anybody. So I requested her.. “who upset you as a child?” and she or he tells me “…possibly not disappointment however disgrace.” So I say “okay inform me about that.” Effectively her mother had been a prostitute. So, I feel I do know what’s occurring, however I requested a query. “Okay, do different individuals know this…. family and friends, native individuals and so forth. and she or he goes “oh yeah, all of them know….after which she added this “and she or he’s nonetheless alive.“
Received it, “I do know what your drawback is” and she or he asks, “what’s my drawback?“
Effectively you’ve created this imaginary line that when you cross it, the those that find out about your mother are going to chime in on social media and convey disgrace to your dwelling mom which you’d do something to forestall.
And he or she’s like “oh my god” and began crying, she had a breakdown. Then I informed her…however there’s one other approach to take a look at it. Your mother did the whole lot she probably may that can assist you have a greater life than she did and for that to be the rationale that you simply don’t…..sort of a slap within the face, proper?
It’s a bit of harsh, a bit of robust on her.
Didn’t understand how she would do with that, however I saved checking up on her, saved checking up on her and two weeks in the past, she despatched me- no, one week in the past. One week in the past she despatched me a message and stated Ray, I simply crossed $93,000 in revenue for the month. Thanks, thanks, thanks.
Her determining that program allowed her to interrupt the sample.
What’s your sample?
What’s your program?
What did you observe as a child?
These are the sort of questions that may lead you in case you are constantly inconsistent, it’s not since you’re lazy, it’s since you’ve drawn the flawed conclusion to success. And so begin to chip away at “why am I making selections like this, why do I cease exhibiting up, why do I modify instructions” and begin to determine your packages and also you’ll change your life.
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